5 Communication Habits That Strengthen (or Sabotage) Your Relationship

Have you ever felt like your partner isn’t really hearing you? Miscommunication is one of the top reasons couples struggle.

These are the key habits to look out for in your relationship—whether they’re strengthening your bond or quietly sabotaging it.

Habit 1: Listening Without Interrupting

Problem: Cutting each other off creates defensiveness.

Solution: Practice active listening (eye contact, summarizing what you heard).


Habit 2: Validating Instead of Defending

  • Problem: Jumping into defense mode makes the other feel dismissed.

  • Solution: Respond with empathy (“I can see why that upset you”).


Habit 3: Expressing Needs Clearly (Not Through Criticism)

  • Problem: Criticism sounds like blame.

  • Solution: Use “I feel” statements and requests instead of “You always/never.”


5. Habit 4: Taking a Pause Before Reacting

  • Problem: Heated arguments escalate quickly.

  • Solution: Take time-outs, practice deep breathing, or revisit the conversation later.


6. Habit 5: Showing Appreciation Daily

  • Problem: Couples often forget to highlight the positive.

  • Solution: Small thank-yous and compliments build trust and intimacy.

Healthy communication is about practice, not perfection. If these signs sound familiar, know that it’s never too late to turn things around. With the right tools and a genuine desire to grow together, couples can strengthen their bond, restore hope, and build a healthier connection. If you and your partner are ready to learn new tools, our couples therapy sessions in Montebello and Newport Beach provide a safe space to reconnect.

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