Discernment Therapy
Considering Divorce? Therapy for Couples Who Are Not Sure
If one of you is unsure about staying together and the other wants to keep trying, discernment counseling can help.
This is a short-term service that helps you slow down, get clear, and decide what to do next.
What is discernment counseling?
Discernment counseling is a guided conversation for couples who feel stuck. It is not about fixing everything right away. It is about helping you understand what is happening and choose your next step with more peace and less pressure.
Who this is for?
One of you is thinking about separation or divorce
You feel disconnected and keep having the same fights
One of you wants therapy, and the other is unsure
You do not want to make a rushed decision
How it works?
Most couples meet for one to five sessions.
What do we do in each session?
Meet together for part of the time
Meet with each partner one-on-one during the same appointment
Create clear next steps
This structure helps reduce arguing and helps you both feel heard.
What will you decide?
By the end, most couples choose one of these options
Stay the same for now, with a clear plan
Separate or divorce in a calmer, more respectful way
Commit to couples therapy with clear goals
What you can expect?
A calm and neutral therapist
A safe space to talk without pushing an outcome
Help understanding your patterns and what led you here
Support making a decision you can feel confident about
You do not have to decide today. If your relationship is at a turning point, we can help you get clear on what comes next.
Frequently Asked Questions
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It is different. Couples therapy focuses on fixing the relationship. Discernment counseling helps you decide if you want to try couples therapy or move in a different direction.
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No. We will not push you. We help you make a clear decision.
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You can reach us anytime via our contact page, by scheduling a consultation, calling or texting us or even an email. We aim to respond quickly—usually within one business day.
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Getting started is simple. Reach out through our contact form or schedule a call—we’ll walk you through the next steps and answer any questions along the way.
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Usually one to five sessions.
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Yes. This works best when both partners attend.
If there is violence, intimidation, or you feel unsafe, this service may not be the right fit. We will help you find safer support.
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Monday - Friday: 9AM – 6PM
Saturday: 8AM - 4PM
Sunday: Closed
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Directions:
MONTEBELLO
NEWPORT BEACH
🚨 Important Notice: Emergency Situations 🚨
If you are experiencing a crisis, feeling unsafe, or need immediate assistance, please call 911 or go to the nearest emergency room.
For mental health emergencies, you can also contact:
📞 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline – Dial 988 (Available 24/7)
📞 National Domestic Violence Hotline – 1-800-799-7233
📞 Crisis Text Line – Text HELLO to 741741
Our practice does not provide emergency services. If you need immediate help, please seek emergency support.